One of the very basic truths about Franciscans is the matter of freedom. Love and freedom go together. You are perfectly free to leave the discernment process at any time and you are free to leave the Secular Franciscan Order at any time. Hopefully the only secret you will ever learn from the Franciscans is the enormous love people are capable of in this world despite sickness and tribulation. To love is to hope for the very best in others. To love is to set people free so that they really can love.