You need to remember that, “Contemplation and Fraternity are the wings by which a Franciscan flies up to heaven.” Only when you understand that “Prayer is the breath of love” and that we cannot say to God in prayer “I love you!” unless we give proof of that love by being compassionate to others, have you understood Franciscan spirituality - indeed Christian spirituality. So there are two things a Secular Franciscan needs to be committed to: Personal Prayer and being willing to be part of a local fraternity of Secular Franciscans.